Unhappy relationships may be saved with dedication and work from both partners. Having been married with children, I would by lying if I didn’t ask myself occassionally if we could have made it work had we tried harder. Yet, truth be told a lot of damage had been done in those last two years… that repairing the relationship was futile. A bond we both shared since we were both twenty years old…a deep and loving friendship had been destroyed. In our individual hurt and pain, each of us had built up a wall. And I’ll admit, my wall became taller and stronger…he couldn’t get through to me towards the end.
It was…sadly…too little too late for me.
Effective communication, TRUE resolution of past problems and QUALITY (not quantity) time are essential to improving your relationship. I know this now. And I know how important it is that both partners must want to do the work to have a strong relationship.
Unhappy partners usually complain about a lack of intimacy. We all crave affection and attention. We should be encouraging to our partners, lifting them up and praising them.
It’s amazingly simple when you think about it. There is a wonderful scripture in the Bible that gives a wonderful instruction regarding love:
Love endures with patience and serenity, love is kind and thoughtful, and is not jealous or envious; love does not brag and is not proud or arrogant. It is not rude; it is not self-seeking, it is not provoked [nor overly sensitive and easily angered]; it does not take into account a wrong endured. It does not rejoice at injustice, but rejoices with the truth [when right and truth prevail]. Love bears all things [regardless of what comes], believes all things [looking for the best in each one], hopes all things [remaining steadfast during difficult times], endures all things [without weakening].
Love never fails [it never fades nor ends]…~ 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 Amplified Version Bible (AMP)
My friend who is also a therapist sent me this article titled, “The Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse.” This is a must-read for anyone in a relationship.
True love endures.